Good afternoon !
Love is in the air, Love is all around, Love is travelling and relocating and becomes an expat!
There are so many reasons one's making the decision to change country : career, money, retirement, health, education, etc. All of the reasons just mentioned have something in common : logic arguments, circumstantial thoughts, profound analysis. Additionally, there are tons of "to do" lists, "not to forget", "pros and cons"...
However, there is a specific expats' category demolishing myriads of plans, "how to" articles, entire farewell parties, induction procedures...
Ladies and Gentlemen, I am proud to present you the honorees of our today's discussion :
LOVE EXPATS !
Don't you really agree that this category needs a special "treatment" ?
As a definition, love expats are those who follow their heart, leaving everything behind them for their -so supposed- other half. Brave decision indeed, with a strong, unclassified, and unbowed character, this choice is the riskiest yet the most powerful of all in regards with relocation.
Although such an action can bring us to tears because of its supreme romanticism, it should be ruled by some down to earth thoughts in order this love to survive and last...
First of all, are you BOTH ready for such a big move ? We are not just talking about moving-in together in the other side of the city. The picture here is much bigger. Relocating to another country already creates a mess to all aspects of life. Let alone to deal with each other's habits ! Have you ever done your "test drive" to see how would it go? Big changes and all together, the relationship should be based in strong foundations or in crazy, unconditional passion (what..?)
Additionally, there are career and money issues. What does "follow my partner" mean in practice ? Should you quit your career ? Are there career potentials for you in that country ? Who will support you-financially speaking- ? Is your partner ready/willing to do something like that ? And what about your needs ? Are you absolutely ready to accept that for a period of time, you may be jobless ? And something else : should you move to a country your partner has some relatives or are you planning to move to a "neutral" country ? Consider how you would feel in both cases, i.e. when you know nobody and you have no strings attached whereas this could be your partner's country. Of course, this could be a less challenging situation; actually, this could be a supportive one, even more when you should learn a new language or loneliness and home-sickness knocks our door.
I don't want to pinch your balloon, I'm just trying to be the speak of the devil, because actually this expat category, is my favorite one, and I would really wish everyone who follows his/her heart not to regret it and after many-many years all this spontaneous reaction, to be a story emotional enough to create sighs to its listeners... !
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